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Bored Stay at Home Mom: How to Enjoy Motherhood and Find Fulfillment in Christ

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Are you a bored stay at home mom?  Why is being a mom not entertaining?

Bored Stay at Home Mom How to Enjoy Motherhood and Find Fulfillment in Christ

I am a stay at home mom, so this post is written from that perspective.  I don’t doubt, however, that it applies to all mothers.

After becoming a stay at home mother, I have found myself spending more and more time on my phone.   Why is this?

Bored Stay at Home Mom



After much prayer and reading, I came to the conclusion that I am bored.  Yes, I have a million and five things to do – making appointments, cleaning the house, changing diapers, play dates, cooking dinner, etc.  As the days go on, all of those things start to feel more and more mundane.  There is no more weekend, just a world full of Mondays.  My mind is bored.

Being a boy mom does keep me on my toes, but even grabbing objects out of my son’s mouth all day long becomes routine.  A challenging, frustrating, and dehumanizing routine that can lead to checking out mentally.  How many stay at home moms find themselves lacking a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day?  Surely I’m not the only one.

So, what’s the problem?  Why am I not entertained? (+10 points for picturing Russell Crowe in Gladiator yelling at you)

Separating the Sacred from the Secular

Over the summer, I read an article by Focus on the Family – Canada about “Experiencing Joy and Purpose as a Stay-at-Home Parent.”  I came across the article while searching how to have Biblical joy as a mom.  If you haven’t yet read my story of God using adoption and motherhood to rock my world, click here.

The author of the article, Jodi McIsaac Martens, read one of my favorite books, The Practice of the Presence of God (affiliate link).  This book includes writing, letters, dictations from a 17th-century monk, Brother Lawrence.  If you want an attitude check, then this book is for you.  I remember being convicted as I read how he uses everyday, mundane tasks to worship God.  The small tasks aren’t actually small.  God uses everything for His Glory.

After reading the book, Martens asked herself the question, Does my household work play a significant role in my spiritual life?”  Her answer was no, and when I asked myself this question over the summer, my answer was also, obviously, no.  She goes on to discuss the separation of the sacred and the secular.  The sacred is for Sunday morning worship, sharing the good news of the Gospel, going on a mission trip, etc.  The secular is everything else.  Sweeping up cheerios, teaching my child how to use the potty, and folding a mountain of laundry are secular, completely separate from my sacred “quiet time.”

But should they be?

Enjoying Motherhood

Finding Happiness as a Mom

Being a stereotypical missionary going on brave adventures to bring the Gospel to the unreached people of some remote mountain village sounds entertaining and exciting.  Staying home with a 2-year-old boy sounds much less glamorous.  Is being a career missionary always exciting?  No, it involves daily sacrifice, perseverance, and testing of faith.  Being a career missionary can be both dangerous and lonely.  But from here, while rocking my screaming son or from the church pew as I try not to let my mind wander and think about this week’s meal plan, the grass on the other side appears fulfilling and meaningful.

If, however, we combine the sacred and the secular, like Brother Lawrence, we find ourselves serving a sovereign, almighty God in every moment.  The mundane is now a sacred act of worship.  That is exciting.

Is holding my son during a meltdown fun? Absolutely not, but it reminds me of the love God has poured into my broken heart.  Is crying after I have my own meltdown fun?  Absolutely not, but I am reminded of God’s faithfulness and mercy in each moment.  When I clean up the great pooptastrophe of 2017 (It’s been a crazy week ya’ll), I persevere and do all things to and for His glory.

In each little moment, I have the opportunity to show my son the incredible God I serve. That is an amazing and fulfilling purpose.  Christ is using this time of my life to shape my character.

Are you a bored stay at home mom?  Are you not entertained? (Yes, Russell Crowe again)

Then, look to Jesus.  Serve Him.  Trust Him.  Build a home that points to Him.  Train your child to seek Him in everything.

Is being a mother hard?  Yes, but He is worth it.

Want to go deeper?  Here are some verses to read.

2 Corinthians 3:18

Matthew 11:28-30

John 7:37-38

Philippians 2:12-16

Colossians 3

I would love to hear from you!  How do you find meaning and purpose as a mother?  When you find yourself separating the “sacred” and the “secular,” how do you intentionally strive to worship God in all things?

Bored Stay at Home Mom How to Enjoy Motherhood and Find Fulfillment in Christ


  1. “There is no more weekend, just a world full of Mondays…” When we become mothers, we give up our lives, but somehow if we abide in Christ each moment, this is exactly what God wants us to be doing.

  2. “The small tasks aren’t actually small.” >>> This is something that I have had to learn recently. I am also a SAHM. Picking up this thought every single day, has really broken through the dark and lonely ones. “A cheerful disposition is good for your health; gloom and doom leave you bone-tired.” Proverbs 17:22, MSG

  3. I am not yet a mother, but I am grateful for your honesty and vulnerability. How easy it is to become bored and struggle with finding purpose in the everyday,but I love that you said “Build a home that points to Him.” How convicting! If I am not striving to make every area of my life point to Christ, then of course it will become boring and purposeless!

  4. “Is being a mother hard? Yes, but He is worth it.” AMEN!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I don’t have any answers, but I love looking for Jesus in everyday moments.

  5. Melissa says:

    What a great read. I have a great quote that I hold onto and live out “Lord, into Your hands I place this day, All that I have and do and say; Oh, grant that every hour be filled with thoughts and actions You have willed” – Green

  6. Alyssa says:

    I can definitely relate. It is so easy to get lost and bored in the everyday, even when we do have so much to be thankful for, when we are in the moment that is often hard to remember.

  7. JJ says:

    I had a good friend once tell me that when she folds laundry she prays for the person whose clothes she is folding. I thought it was a wonderful way to connect with God in the daily routine. I agree it isn’t glamorous and I have felt the same way. I think a good hobby is important to getting outside of the daily routine and doing something you love.

  8. Being a mom is such a fulfilling assignment. I am on the other side now as a Nana to 13 kids now, but my youngest just got married this summer. So we had 41.5 years of parenting (our kids were pretty spread out). Thanks for the perspective you can give from the trenches. Keeping our focus on God is so important.

  9. Yes! This post spoke to me. Just this past year I went through some sort of existential crisis as my life as a stay at home mom of 10 years. I felt that nobody really valued me and that everything that I did was rote and pointless. That’s a frustrating place to be. Thankfully God showed me true joy that truly had to come from Him. I feel like I’m on a mission for Him now – not just a slave to our house and kids – but a slave for Christ. I share the Gospel with my kids every chance I get (trying for everyday) and I know God is continuing to work on me. This culture we live in does not seem to value mothers and definitely not stay-at-home moms (some imply I have wasted my time/gifting/education). That goes against what God says about us – so I’m rebuking the lies. Great post!

  10. my son is the best that’s happened to me after Jesus and my husband. I love being a mom and I love staying at home to have fun with Him. Yes, I have to admit there are days especially when finances become tight I feel a lack of accomplishment but eventually in prayer it fades away.

  11. Such an honest post. I really struggled with boredom as a young mother. I always had to have an intellectual outlet, but your point of combining the sacred and secular was something that kept me focused on what was true.

  12. Marie says:

    I was blessed with a year and a half home with my children and was never bored. but then again, I don’t get bored easily. Thank you for sharing this for those that do

  13. Kristi says:

    It is a complete state of mind and heart. We can choose to see what we are doing as a missional service in our home or we can begrudge where we are in life. Honoring God in all we do, allows us to see that we can serve him in any capacity!

  14. Merry says:

    “Christ is using this time of my life to shape my character.” Oh, conviction. I so relate to your thoughts here, Mama. It’s hard to reconcile the everyday with eternity sometimes, but it is our good and important work. Love!

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